In this post you will find questions to ask your spouse on your next outing or while staying in. Asking each other questions can help you get to know one another more when life gets in the way. Read on to see what these questions to ask your spouse are.
What questions should couples ask each other?
Recently my husband and I were watching an episode of The Office. Since we started dating we have watched The Office – episode after episode, season after season. I would have to say it’s our goto show. There are many characters to follow, but besides the two main male characters Micheal and Dwight, the couple, Jim and Pam Halpert, are fan favorites. If you’ve ever watched The Office, you will probably agree that Jim and Pam are one of the cutest couples, and though, admittedly, they didn’t get together in the best way, a lot of couples may agree that they would love to have a married relationship like Jim and Pam’s.
In the particular episode we were watching, the couple is attending Pam’s ex-fiance’s wedding. As they are leaving for the reception Pam states how, Roy (her ex), is so predictable, and how they would probably be having hotdogs at the reception as that was his suggestion for their planned wedding reception. Jim and Pam show up to the reception and it is the complete opposite of what they had thought it would be.
The event is both elegant and charming. Roy is surprisingly friendly and even thanks Jim for “stealing” Pam as he would not have met and married his lovely new bride. Later Roy surprises his bride with the fact that he has been taking lessons to learn to play the piano. Roy continues to serenade her with a song and piano combo, and Jim and Pam are noticeable dumbfounded. After the reception, Jim and Pam begin to think that maybe people are not always what they seem, and they start wonder if they know everything about each other.
Getting to Know Your Spouse
Before marriage and within those first couple years, you want to know every single detail about that person, so you ask. You ask questions about one another’s personal lives – the details of before you were together and now. But after a few years of marriage, the curiosity starts to fade, and you tend to not ask those questions as much anymore, or maybe not at all. Perhaps it’s because you are too busy or possibly because you simply forget to take the time.
We should always be trying to learn about and know our significant other as much as possible. We should take the time to get to know each other even after years of marriage. Who knows, maybe your spouse will surprise you. What you learned about your spouse before marriage, or in the early years may have changed.
Date Night
Make the time to go on a date can be tough, especially after having kids. Sometimes it seems the date night can turn into a robotic thing. Even though you’re going on a date, which is wonderful, you can get caught up in just doing the same thing each time and “going through the motions” of a date. Get dressed up, go to the restaurant, talk about what’s planned for next week, possibly scroll through your phone as you’re chatting, and go to a movie; never taking the time to truly “be with your spouse.”
Now don’t get me wrong. Sometimes this kind of “plan everything for the week, don’t really think of anything else” date is EXACTLY what you need. But sometimes a good heart-to-heart between you and your spouse is needed. Even if you have lived together for a year, 5, 10 or even 50 years, you may not know everything about that person or, worst-case scenario, you will find that you do. #marriagegoals, am I right?!
Questions to Ask Your Spouse
Here are a mix of 50 fun and serious questions to ask your spouse and vise versa.
- What is your worst fear?
- If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
- What is your favorite animal?
- What is your favorite vehicle?
- What would your dream vacation be?
- What is your favorite flower?
- If you had three wishes, what would you wish for?
- What is your biggest pet peeve?
- What is a hobby you wish you could do more of?
- What is the best meal you’ve ever had?
- What is your favorite food?
- What foods do you hate?
- What was your first car?
- Who was your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
- If you were on life support, how long would you want me to wait until I unplug you?
- What is your biggest fear?
- If you could buy anything that costs less than $500 what would it be?
- What was the weirdest thing you did growing up?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to learn, but haven’t?
- What are the top 3 to do’s on your bucket list?
- What would your perfect work day look like?
- What would a perfect Saturday look like?
- What is your favorite sex position?
- If you could describe your perfect job, what would it be?
- What is the funniest prank you’ve ever pulled on someone?
- Do you prefer the sunset or sunrise?
- What is your dream car?
- If we could live anywhere, where would it be?
- What is your favorite physical feature of yourself?
- What is your favorite physical feature of me?
- If you could choose to be famous, would you? Why or why not?
- Do you think you’re better working on your own or with a team?
- If you could go to one concert of any musician, dead or alive, who would it be?
- What is something you have been complimented on multiple times?
- Did you ever do anything to be sent to the principal’s office?
- How was discipline handled in your home growing up?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, would you? If so, what would it be?
- What advice would you give yourself at 18?
- If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be?
- What were your favorite traditions growing up?
- What is your favorite season? Why?
- What is your favorite holiday? Why?
- If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
- What is your all time favorite movie?
- What is your favorite tv show?
- What is the biggest regret you’ve had?
- If you knew you had only one year to live, would you change the way you are living now? If so, how? And why?
- What is something you feel our relationship is lacking?
- What about our relationship makes you happy?
- What can I do this week to help you?
Questions to Ask Your Spouse Challenge
Here’s a little challenge for you and your spouse. Next date night skip the movies, maybe even skip the restaurant and get take out. Go on a long walk in the park or drive down an old dirt road. Get to know each other more. Ask some or all of the questions from this “50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse on Date Night”!
